Friday, February 20, 2015

Until He Takes A Wife

As my last offspring is making her way steadily into young adulthood I often find myself thinking about the person I have transformed into from the experience of raising children. I reflect upon all the parenting mistakes I've made along the way and the heartache and guilt as a result of some of my decisions and actions.  I also relish in the satisfaction of all the things I obviously did right, all the joy, love and equally so the frustration my children brought to me...and the patience, yes definitely the patience.

Having both a son and a daughter, I am one of those lucky ones that have been able to experience the different relationship aspects that each gender bring to a mother.

As they get older I consider the relationship I have with each one of them.

In just a short few months my 26 year old son will be "Tying the knot".

We've always had a close relationship BUT he has never been what one consider a "mama's boy" nor would I consider me to be an overbearing or jealous mother.

Now that he has taken a fiance there is a different dynamic to our relationship. It's completely natural that all of his emotional availability should go to his wife to be.

I know this is what happens, and quite honestly it's what I WANTED to happen for him. I'm happy for him because he has found someone to share his life with.

It makes me think of the saying, " A son is a son until he takes a wife, a daughter is a daughter for life."

Although I'm far from religious, here is another one I remember having to memorize for my Bible class in high school:

Mark 10:7-8 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

When a man gets married there is another woman he has to make happy, and as every woman knows a happy wife makes a happy life.

In other words, there is a new "bitch" in town. :-)