Sunday, August 2, 2009

What Would Happen If......

I was thinking lately about how much people in general irritate me daily. I am not one of those people who "Love my neighbor as I do myself." I know that is not the social norm to even say that aloud but for the sake of my post I am going to. Most people tolerate other people well....or at least do a good job pretending to.

For some reason it is not acceptable to respond to people in an opposing manner. If you do you are labelled as hard to get along with or tagged as a bitch or some other derogatory name.

When it boils down to it, everyone is so fake with one another. Most of us don't express what we are really thinking or feeling when we are are socializing with one another.

Just a few examples:

You pretend that you think your neighbors kid is just adorable when you are really thinking what a huge head he has and how out of control his behavior is.

Most peoples blogs are all sugar and spice but inside their homes loom an emotional disaster. We are expected to only write the pretty stuff when sometimes in real life it's not really all that pretty.

An old friend professes she is a great mother and you know she is just fooling herself 'cause you know she would never get the Mother of the Year award but you just nod your head in agreement even though you remember the day she packed up her stuff and walked out on her kids while they were still in diapers.

Your crazy neighbor preaches about her religious convictions too much to you and you just keep trying to change the subject instead of inflicting your belief upon her like she does you.

Your husband wants to "play in the hay" and you really want to tell him to "Get a magazine and here is the lotion." Instead you grin and bear it and hope it's over pretty quick so you can get back to what you were doing before you were so rudely interrupted.

Or your neighbor wants you to watch her nuisance dog, that you already are fed up with anyway, while she goes on vacation for the week. You really want to tell her that you hope the dog gets snake bit while she is gone so you don't have to deal with the nuisance dog ever again. Instead you agree to the task of feeding, watering, and chasing the dog down to chain it up in the evenings while she is gone.

You get the picture??

We all are very honest as young children. We stare at someone we think looks or acts odd and point it out. We tell someone when they are ugly or they stink....that is before we are taught to "be nice" or not to say how we are really feeling. I think that maybe if we were all totally honest with each other in the beginning that no one would ever be able to be offended or persecuted.

So I was fantasizing about what would really happen if you started expressing your actual thoughts and feelings when in social settings. It really might be rather amusing....

As for now we all just have to put that smile on your face, suck it up and move on and be the robots we are taught to be.


  1. You know? You're right.

    Man that sucks! Quit being right, damn it!


  2. Tell us how you really feel! One of the great things about being a college teacher, I can and do tell people what I think of them and their actions/performance. Part of the job description. One of these trips to Austin, me and Ellen, you and Toby will sit and have a beer together. And I'll bet it'll be a better "beer summit" than the one that just happened in DC. NO BUD LITE ALLOWED!

  3. I often fantasize about saying all those things running through my mind as I nod and murmur politely........I thought that was normal!